Ok I like this guy but he keeps running back to his ex when they get
into a fight then he shows up on my door step boo whooing. One thing
leads to another & well ya get the pic. What should I do ?
~By Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
It sounds like you have feelings for this person, why else would you allow him to treat your heart like a revolving door? I know it's easier said than done, but you need to tell "Romeo" to make up his mind or take a hike! It's obvious that you aren't ok with his actions, so why let him keep treating you like he does?
Monday, February 11, 2013
Loose Loose Situation
What do think I should do. I have this friend who has been cheating on
her boyfriend who is also my friend we all grew up together. Should I
tell him she is cheating? I don’t want to loose their friendship. But
its not right & I have told her how I felt about the whole thing.
But she just continues cheating. & not always with the same guy.
By Loose Loose Either Way (LLEW)
PS: I have always had a crush on him, and don’t want him thinking I am making it up.
Dear LLEW,
This is a tough situation, my suggestion is that you follow your heart. If you feel you need to say something, do it. But think about it like this hypothetical situation...
You walk in on two people fighting, lets say they are siblings... you jump in to try to stop the fight. In the mean time they both turn on you for meddeling in "family" affairs. Then after they deal w/ your meddeling, they go back to their fight against one another.
These things really happen, & when it does it is truely a loose loose situation. You may open the eyes of the victim but on the other hand you cross the line of friendship & violate the trust of the other. It comes down to what's more important keeping a horrible secret and violating your own code of ethics or being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe is right.
If you have made your opinion known to the chaeting friend, then she already knows it is bothering you. Maybe you should talk to her again. Tell her how you feel and be a little less suttle. Tell her that if this continues that you will stand up for your moral beliefs and talk to her spouse. Maybe even suggest her telling him in front of you or visa versa.
As for your "crush". I don't know that your "crush" matters as long as your actions are based on good intentions. Basically...As long as you are doing everything w/ the best intentions for everyone involved... you aren't crossing a boundry line. Just don't go jumping into a relationship w/ the guy... ok?
By Loose Loose Either Way (LLEW)
PS: I have always had a crush on him, and don’t want him thinking I am making it up.
Dear LLEW,
This is a tough situation, my suggestion is that you follow your heart. If you feel you need to say something, do it. But think about it like this hypothetical situation...
You walk in on two people fighting, lets say they are siblings... you jump in to try to stop the fight. In the mean time they both turn on you for meddeling in "family" affairs. Then after they deal w/ your meddeling, they go back to their fight against one another.
These things really happen, & when it does it is truely a loose loose situation. You may open the eyes of the victim but on the other hand you cross the line of friendship & violate the trust of the other. It comes down to what's more important keeping a horrible secret and violating your own code of ethics or being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe is right.
If you have made your opinion known to the chaeting friend, then she already knows it is bothering you. Maybe you should talk to her again. Tell her how you feel and be a little less suttle. Tell her that if this continues that you will stand up for your moral beliefs and talk to her spouse. Maybe even suggest her telling him in front of you or visa versa.
As for your "crush". I don't know that your "crush" matters as long as your actions are based on good intentions. Basically...As long as you are doing everything w/ the best intentions for everyone involved... you aren't crossing a boundry line. Just don't go jumping into a relationship w/ the guy... ok?
Mrs Right
How long does it take to find the right woman (True Love) ~The seeker~
Dear Seeker,
Your Mrs. right could be someone you already know or she could be someone you have yet to meet. I think the important part is that a person stay open to any/all possibilities. Alot of possibilities are missed because people don't place them selves in situations to meet like minded people or they fail to keep an open mind when they do.. Good luck :)
Dear Seeker,
Your Mrs. right could be someone you already know or she could be someone you have yet to meet. I think the important part is that a person stay open to any/all possibilities. Alot of possibilities are missed because people don't place them selves in situations to meet like minded people or they fail to keep an open mind when they do.. Good luck :)
Revolving Door Relationships
Why is it fine for man to break up with one woman to start seeing
another only to come back to the first to have sex then when she ask if
they are getting & or are back together he tells her he don’t know
what to do that he has feeling for both but don’t know who to choose now
if a woman did that she would be a whore.
By Confused
Dear Confused,
It sounds like there is a need for two answers. First, the man needs to do some soul searching. He obviously don't know what he wants and therefore probably shouldn't be having sex with ANYONE. If he is in a relationship and isn't telling the person, he is CHEATING. Second, the lady who allows such action needs to be asking herself why she allows it. YES I understand a human's sexual/emotional needs, but there is a little thing called self respect that should be waving a red flag. After all this woman deserves to be loved not used... And if he is cheating on one, he will probably do the same to the other.
By Confused
Dear Confused,
It sounds like there is a need for two answers. First, the man needs to do some soul searching. He obviously don't know what he wants and therefore probably shouldn't be having sex with ANYONE. If he is in a relationship and isn't telling the person, he is CHEATING. Second, the lady who allows such action needs to be asking herself why she allows it. YES I understand a human's sexual/emotional needs, but there is a little thing called self respect that should be waving a red flag. After all this woman deserves to be loved not used... And if he is cheating on one, he will probably do the same to the other.
All Is Good~ By Lonely
Why is it alright for a man to completely ignore a woman that he has been
dating & then call / text her out of the blue & think its all
good.
By Lonely Text
Dear Lonely Text,
Is it possible that the male wasn't "ignoring" the lady at all. Maybe he was just busy taking care of other issues, forgot to call/text, and she took it wrong? Sounds like maybe these two need to COMMUNICATE their needs.
By Lonely Text
Dear Lonely Text,
Is it possible that the male wasn't "ignoring" the lady at all. Maybe he was just busy taking care of other issues, forgot to call/text, and she took it wrong? Sounds like maybe these two need to COMMUNICATE their needs.
Why do People Expect Valentines Day Gifts
Why do woman automatically think a man should get them something for
Valentine’s Day When they have only been with a man for a short
time. ~By Shoot Cupid
Dear "Shoot Cupid",
Face it, Valentines day was created manufactuers. Then society began training youth at young ages to show love by spending money on materialistic items. It is this type of training that causes people in general (not just women) to expect gifts (not just for V-day but christmas, easter, wedding annaversaries, etc)
Dear "Shoot Cupid",
Face it, Valentines day was created manufactuers. Then society began training youth at young ages to show love by spending money on materialistic items. It is this type of training that causes people in general (not just women) to expect gifts (not just for V-day but christmas, easter, wedding annaversaries, etc)
Tired Of The same Question
Why is it that men always ask, what is the best way to turn a woman on when as with men not all are the same. ~Tired of the same question.
Dear Tired,
It seems that everyone is looking for the perfect answer to the same question. What do I need to do to turn on my mate? The fact is there is no right or wrong answer because everyone has different needs and desires. What works for one person, may run another person off. So, I suggest you tell people to ask the person who they are interested in, what turns him/her on. Remember Communication is the key to any/all healthy relationships :)
Dear Tired,
It seems that everyone is looking for the perfect answer to the same question. What do I need to do to turn on my mate? The fact is there is no right or wrong answer because everyone has different needs and desires. What works for one person, may run another person off. So, I suggest you tell people to ask the person who they are interested in, what turns him/her on. Remember Communication is the key to any/all healthy relationships :)
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